Dating Desperation
You’ve plastered your best smile on your face and you think you’ve mastered the art of flirting. So why is it that you have one heck of a hard time attracting a date? And once you do have a date, there’s no second date! In a word, desperation.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if this sounds like you, you’re wearing your dating desperation on your sleeve. One look at you and potential daters will keep their distance; they can smell your fear. Want to change your luck? Read on;
As with most things in life, when you try too hard to succeed at something, you end up failing. Just like you can’t force that white ball onto the green, you can’t force someone to fall for you; it usually just happens on its own. When you appear desperate for a date the only thing potential dates will feel is pressure, not desire.
Lying to impress. If you’re guilty of lying about yourself to impress someone, stop it! Right now! There’s nothing to be gained by lying about who you are or what you do. Sooner or later even the little white lies are going to catch up with you. Do it often enough and you’ll gain a reputation you really don’t want.
Agreeing with everything. When you’re having a conversation with a potential date, do you find yourself agreeing with everything they say, even if you don’t? Though this isn’t outright lying, you’re not being true to yourself. You cannot expect someone to get to know the real you if you don’t have any opinions of your own. Agreeing for the sake of agreeing is for wimps.
No one is going to want to date you if you let them walk all over you. Doormats are for entrance ways, not for dating! Showing potential dates that you won’t tolerate shoddy treatment like them showing up late or not at all makes it clear that you respect yourself, and expect to be treated accordingly.
You sleep with someone even though you don’t really want to. Have sex with whomever you want, provided you feel ready to do so. By doing otherwise you’re setting yourself up as someone who’ll go to any lengths to please someone; and that’s desperation personified.
True dating desperation means dating anyone you can, regardless of whether or not you actually like them. If that sounds like you, you need some dating downtime. And you should use that time to get back in touch with yourself; to like yourself and enjoy your own company. If you like yourself, chances are that others will too!
